Your comment is vastly more succinct that how I could put it or tried to. We who grew up white in places like the northeast as I did, do not hear enough of these stories and encountered none of them growing up. The 365-24/7 reality, the gall of blaming victims for bad outcomes, etc., and then saying “systemic” white racism doesn’t exist. I thank you for your stories. I have just been researching my own ancestral American past and now much come to terms that one of my ancestors was a slave who property of a governor who “bred” her and her fellow slaves on a plantation then her mulatto/creole child was married off at 14 to my grandfather’s father. My grandfather moved north to NYC area with his “mixed” blood, slave past, but Irish name I now carry and light skin allowed him to “secretly” cross the color line more than a hundred years ago. Thank you.