I’ll just go direct with one clear thing. Here’s why your wrong: the coup was not the violence. Coups don’t have to have violence and your were being deceived by watching the rioters with all kinds to crazy things and violence and seeing that with your eyes, and equating that with a coup. That was maybe Revolution, or Inurrection,but it was only one obvious attempt of a coup. The real coup, which was bloodless, was when Trump and different “slates” of electors tried to submit, illegally, different ballots and/or nullify the ballots before they were counted in a month long campaign. Actually it started when Barr told Trump there was no voter fraud and Barr was immediately fired by Trump for telling hjm that. Barr told Trump, You legally lost the election It was free and fair and Biden won.” Not those exact words, but that was the clear message. Trump did not concede defeat at that moment and fired fired the messenger. That is the very moment the coup started. It starts by a leader NOT accepting defeat and trying to overturn the votes that were legitimately counted and he lost to the opponent. In some cases, the coup successful, like in Venezuela. Several times. The president lost but kept power. He event started his own Congress next door to the legitimately elected one where the opposition gained power. Sometimes their is violence, sometimes not, or sometimes just a bit. Putin overthrew the constitution, got it rewritten TWICE so he could stay on in power. Just a year ago he fired his whole cabinet (of loyalists) just so they wouldn’t oppose him. It was bloodless in that case.
So no, violence does not equal coup. It does happen and coincide with a coup or “putsch”. It is the removal or stopping of legitimately elected leader and alters the law or breaks the law to do so, delegitimizing the laws. Its the undermining of established laws and practices that are deemed accepted and legitimate that weakens the country, that destroys the fabric of society and government. It is thus clearly a coup. Trump did not concede and ever conceded power. His coup rages on in his heart and mind, and he has his followers still willing to back him up. And that’s the problem.