I did read Channel Miller’s book by chance, and it was extremely well written and made many great point about the abuser not being the problem but the abused. Society is messed up. I commented to defend my daughter is a healthy eleven wearing some “scandalous” from her moms perspective. Why should she be forced to change, can’t men learn to control themselves? My 13 year old daughter jumped in and took my side. The three of lost the argument, but we hope to win the war. The assumption about something “crotch length” is that when a teenage boy sees it he will forth at mouth like an animal, lose control and rape her. The problem is clearly boys not learning to control themselves.