Baby Theft and Baby Shame

Bren Kelly
11 min readSep 22

Korean Ethnic Shame versus White American Racial Shame

That Love You Feel is Shamed.
That Love You Feel is Shamed [text by author, picture by AI, shame by humanity]

There’s no difference. What, did you think I was gonna say there’s a difference? Well, there probably are some differences between Korean and white American baby shame. But it’s not so big and only skin deep. So, let’s explore the incredible similarities between the shame systems of interracial babies in these two countries, especially during the overlapping in of the 1950s with the Korean War where the two countries “interact.”

First of all, the American system involves not only shame, but laws that prevented the adoption of biracial children for decades in most of the 15 neoslavery Jim Crow states — perhaps some outside it, though I haven’t studied those states. But in those states, it is one of the key fulltime segregationist tools of white supremacy. If a baby was born biracially to a black mother, the white father (and perhaps his white wife) could not adopt it. It was the law. Also, the white father of a daughter could make sure the black baby is not black, putting intense pressure on the daughter to “remain pure” and carry on the white race.

There is a system of deep shaming involved underneath the surface here. The surface of a very criminalizing law. A law that makes love between races criminal by making the product of love, fortifying the laws already in existence against interracial marriage. These deepening shame systems internalize in the mass white populace the control sought by the powerful white men in those states looking to maintain power — the owners of sugar and cotton farms for example, along almost all conservative MAGA Democrats in the post-Civil Reconstruction era up to 1960.

That internalization is not overtly seen like whippings, lynchings, the daily slurs and acts of violence, but it is equally effective in reinforcing the desire to maintain white race, purity and supremacy and political power as it lives as a controlling of desire deep inside the white brain day — and night. Segregation is about not just black American repression but about reinforcing in white minds the attaching of negative connotations of mentally perceived differences underlying even the most routine encounters on a continual basis.

Here’s one of the laws: In 1952, Missouri supermajority (or single majority) legislature passed…

Bren Kelly

Engaged in new Ideas and old Inequalities, dismantling the system in systemic, born on the 50th Anniversary of Women's Lib Day, still seeking injustices.